Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Monday, February 21, 2011

Personality

Working with others is always interesting.  I grew up in WI where everyone is very nice and considerate of others.  They will move out of your way, speak kindly or not at all, and if they have something to say that isn't nice, it will be in a passive/aggressive fashion.  I was very passive/aggressive and I hated it.  I feel that living in Cincinnati for the past 8 years and being married to Dan has helped me overcome most of that behavior.  I am much more blunt, which can be hurtful to others at times.  I am now working on a way to be blunt and not passive/aggressive while taking others' feelings into account as well.  I used to only think about how other people felt and always put myself on hold or last, but I was severely hurt by doing this.  The key is BALANCE!  That I can say is NOT me, but I'm not as bad as I used to be :)

So, as for personality, I took a test today that said the following and I think it's pretty correct.  It says I'm not hurt by others easily and that is not true, but I am much better than I used to be.  I can take criticism pretty well, but when people do not like me, that is quite the blow to my narcissistic ego!  Come on, everyone has to like me! ;)

Here are my results:

Determined Realist Determined Realist (DR)

Determined Realists like to bear responsibility and welcome challenges. They are stable, reliable persons. External contacts are very important to them; they mix well and are very active. They are excellent organisers and are very happy when things are done correctly and punctually; they can quickly react impatiently if others are not as conscientious, orderly and dutiful as they are. They prefer structured work which produces visible results quickly to abstract, long-drawn-out processes. Determined Realists have no problem with routine as long as it serves efficiency. However, they very much dislike unexpected and unpredictable occurrences which mess up their careful plans. Once they have committed themselves to a cause they do this with dedication and are willing to make considerable sacrifices for it.

Determined Realists do not avoid conflicts and criticism but face up to them and look for solutions. As they have a keen eye for the errors and shortcomings of others and are often quick at expressing criticism, they sometimes rub people up the wrong way especially when they lose their temper and jump to conclusions. Due to their marked sense of justice they are quickly willing to correct themselves and never take offence if someone speaks to them frankly. You do not have to seek hidden motives with them; you always know where you are. Determined Realists are often found in executive positions as they combine commitment, competence and the ability to assert themselves. In their spare time, they often also accept responsibility in clubs and other institutions.

Traditions rate highly with Determined Realists. They attend every family event and never forget a birthday or wedding anniversary. Family and friends are very important to them. With their open, communicative manner, they find it easy to get to know people and have a large circle of friends and acquaintances. They are never superficial, but reliable and loyal friends who are always there when they are needed. Determined Realists take their relationships very seriously - they dream of finding a partner for life. In a love relationship, they seek above all stability and loyalty and here, too, they are willing to invest a lot in a harmonious togetherness. Determined Realists master crises or difficult phases with composure; they would never think of breaking a promise given. As a partner, one can always rely on their support.